Thursday, September 16, 2010

Even though it hurts

I can train my body 4 days a week, sacrifice tons of time for events and training walks, walk 60 miles in 3 days, sleep on the ground in 30 degree weather, shower in a converted trailer, deal with blisters and a hurting body, even an injury. That's easy! What's hard is asking people for their money. That is by far the hardest part about participating in an event where you are required to fund raise -- and quite a lot at that! It's not that you don't want to fund raise, it's that you have to work for it, ask for it, put yourself out there for it. It's unnerving to ask people to give their dollar to this, to me, when there's so much need out there. There's a million worthy causes, including your own mortgage payment. And believe you me, I know what it's like to wish you had more money just to make the mortgage. Not wanting money for any fanciness or frills, but simply just to meet the bills. I know times are tough out there right now. People are cutting back, scrimping, and saving. Because of this we don't want to be more generous, but rather more safe by padding our wallets up a little bit. Nothing crazy. Just a little insurance to make certain that WE'RE gonna be ok. So when you're one of those people, and you commit to do something like raise $2,300 for breast cancer research, you realize you're gonna have to put yourself in some awkward situations. You might have to look like you're desperate. You might have to risk putting yourself out there to seem like a money-grubber. You risk annoying people, ticking them off, or even guilting them into giving. I don't want to do that to anyone. I definitely don't want to look like a jerk. But I am going to ask. That's the only way. I either get a yes or a no. It's a guarantee that it'll be a no if I never ask. Will you sacrifice one of your Starbucks trips? Maybe a couple? Will you pack a lunch instead of going out? Will you forgo that thing you want to buy maybe just until your next paycheck? Will you step out on a limb and give even if it hurts a little bit? Are you the type of person that will give even to the point of it hurting a lot? Big sacrifices, small sacrifices, no sacrifice at all... I am asking you to give. It's not easy to ask. But I must.

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Thursday, September 9, 2010

Some shocking sex statistics

These are stats compiled by a professor at the University of Virginia in Sociology:

* The average person has their first sexual experience at age 16
* Sexually active teenage girls are more likely to suffer from sexual abuse, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, eating disorders, depression, and suicide
* Pregnancies are common among that group, and roughly 1/3 of the children are aborted, and of those that are born, 1/3 of them are born out of wedlock
* Pornography is a 60 billion dollar annual industry globally and 12 billion of that is spent by Americans
* That is more money than what's spent on pro baseball, basketball, or football combined
* More money is spent on porn by Americans, than the revenues of ABC, NBC, and CBS combined
* In the last 10 years, Americans have spent more money each year on porn than what's been spent on foreign aid, which means if everyone in America would quit watching porn, we'd more than double our foreign aid fund
* More than 200 porn films are made in the U.S. every week - more than one an hour
* Porn sites are 12% of all Internet sites
* Porn is 25% of all search engine requests
* Over 40% of Internet users view porn
* 20% of men admit to accessing porn at work
* 13% of women admit to accessing porn at work
* Every second $3,000 is spent on porn in America
* 28,000 Internet users are viewing porn every second in America
* 372 Internet users every second in America are typing in words looking for more porn
* 90% of children ages 8-16 have viewed porn online
* The average child sees porn for the first time at age 11 online usually inadvertently
* The #1 consumer of porn are boys ages 12-17
* A USA Today article talks about how the average 13 or 14 year old boy expects to have a naked picture of his girlfriend on his phone - these are middle schoolers
* 10% of American adults admit to being addicted to Internet porn, of these 20% are women
* While only 10% of men admit to addiction, over 70% ages 18-34 visit a porn site every month
* 55% of sex offenders and 75% of child molesters are porn addicts
* One survey says 90% of prostitutes were molested as little girls
* Another statistic said the majority of women involved in the porn industry were molested as little girls
* A prostitute said, "Incest is boot camp for prostitution."
* An article in the Washington Post Sept. 16, 2005 Headline: Half of All Teens Have Had Oral Sex, says:
* Slightly more than half of American teens ages 15-19 have engaged in oral sex reporting similar levels of experience according to the most comprehensive national survey of sexual behaviors ever released by the Federal government
* The proportion increases with age to about 70% of 18 and 19 year olds
* Slightly more girls than boys have intercourse before age 20
* The proportion of high school girls that have one night stands as well as nonromantic sexual relationships equals boys
* Many young people from upper middle class white families simply do not consider oral sex to be as significant as their parents' generation does
* Between 1978 and 2008 cohabitaters in the U.S. are 1 million to 5 million couples
* Over 90% of Americans marry
* 40% of marriages end in divorce
* 60% of divorces include children
* 1/3 of all births are to single women
* 1/4 of unmarried women ages 25-39 are presently cohabitating
* Half of all women cohabitate at some point
* 1/2 of marriages are preceeded by cohabitation
* The most likely person to cohabitate is between ages 20-24
* Those that cohabitate then marry are more likely to divorce and are 3 times more likely to be depressed
* Cohabitating women are twice as likely than married women to be beaten or sexually assaulted and are 9 times more likely to be murdered by their partner
* Virgins who marry are much less likely to divorce
* 37% less likely for men
* 24% less likely for women
* Virgins who marry are more likely to stay married happily and enjoy more sex
* Today husbands and wives are equally likely to commit adultery and file for divorce
* 67% of first marriages end before the 40th anniversary
* Half of all divorces happen within the first 7 years
* If the husband and wife are in the work force full-time, the wife is more likely to commit adultery than the husband
* Divorce is 2.4 times higher among couples where neither spouses attend religious services than couples where both attend religious services every week
* Those who frequently attend religious services are only about half as likely to separate
* Those who don't attend religious services are 2.5 times more likely to have been divorce than respondents who attend religious services regularly
* Couple who do not share the same religious denomination or have no religious affiliation are significantly more likely to divorce
* Couples with different religious backgrounds are more than 120% more likely to divorce
* Couples who share the same denomination are 42% more likely to be very happy than couples who do not
* Couples who are theologically conservative report greater marital happiness
* Both married men and women ages 18-55 who attend religious services regularly have happier marriages though the influence of church-going appears to be markedly stronger for married men
* The average married couple is intimate 2-3 times a week
* The average married man takes care of himself secretly 3-4 times a week